5 things your abstinence-only sex-ed class didn’t teach you about sex

If you come, like I do, from a state where abstinence-only sex ed is the norm, then you probably entered young adulthood with terrible misconceptions about all aspects of sex: sexual behaviors, sexual orientation, and safe-sex practices. I remember sitting through a sex-ed lecture, and I kid you not, the gist of the lecture was…

#AskingSaves the man in your life

When we think about suicide, the common thought is that of an emotionally turbulent adolescent plunging into an abyss of pain so deep that they can no longer bear it. For this reason, many of our few suicide prevention resources have been channeled toward preventing teen suicide. While it is true that teenagers have a…

Putting the edge of the acronym in the heart of pride

Darcy’s address at the FM Pride Interfaith Service on Trans Erasure at Pride During our nation’s celebration of LGBTQ+ pride, it is difficult for those under the transgender umbrella to feel recognized. Nestled on the edge of the acronym, transgender and queer plus folks rarely even see their flags nor have their voices included prominently…

Suicide and social media…you can help

More and more we see stories on the news about teenagers and young adults dying by suicide and disclosing their suicide ideation on their social media accounts. One such story which occurred prior to summer was especially gruesome. A college student in Michigan, who had been disclosing suicide ideation for several days on his Facebook…

Show your pride

Even though LGBTQ+ pride month is over, there are still many Pride events occuring across the country: from Austin to Atlanta to Palm Springs, LGBTQ+ pride is still going strong. Learn more about upcoming Pride Events. My own local community is celebrating Pride this week, with events into the weekend. The first pride events I…

When I was young I’d listen to the radio…

When I was an angsty teenager, I felt very isolated and alone from the world. It was as if no one cared, and I was floating along by myself. That time of my life was incredibly dark for me. I felt as if I did not matter and that no one loved me. These feelings,…

Blessed are those who mourn

The past 48 hours have been difficult for me to process and deal with. I have been living on a virtual roller coaster of emotions, flying from extreme grief to extreme anger. It breaks my heart that someone would have so much hate in their heart that they would commit such a morally repugnant atrocity….

Statement in response to #Orlando

Atrocities such as the one committed in Orlando in the early hours of this morning highlight the dangerous consequences of the hate-filled, anti-LGBTQ rhetoric which has become more virulent and common in the past five years. We should resist the urge to rush to label this as an Islamic extremist incident. Rather, our focus should…

Sex and the shitty

I’ve been watching a lot of Sex and the City this year, and I have to bluntly admit that my attention to this iconic American show has less to do with it’s entertainment value and more to do with my fascination for cultural institutions which earn their keep by preying on women. Let me put…

Why suicidology is for everyone

#AAS16 in Chicago this year has been a blast, and I feel like I have really benefited from recharging among my excellent colleagues and friends. And I hope that you have benefited from the research I shared, as well as my live Tweeting and blogging about the interesting talks I have attended. As this post…

Pull up a chair, let’s share our stories

Lived experiences. Many people balk at this notion of sharing the experiences you have had with other people with the purpose of advocating for people who are going through similar things. Anyone who has heard my story knows that my advocacy work began because I stopped being afraid to share my lived experiences with others….

Stigma…the monster in the corner of our minds

In my world, stigma is a four letter word. This is because in my view, stigma is the root of all of the problems we experience in our contemporary world. Stigma is a silencer, an eraser, which seeks to stop and destroy important discussions we should be having as a civilization. Defined, stigma is a…